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This is all my fault
If you want to continue to read my work, you have to follow my new Substack called Tolerance of Men. The one you’re reading now, As You Are, is mostly dead. That fact hasn’t stopped people from subscribing to it.
It’s cool if you’re not interested, but you’ve read this far, so I think you might be.
For your efforts, I’ll share a compromising picture of myself. For the record, this is all my fault. I should have just renamed my existing Substack, but here we are.
Anyway, here’s a section from a recent Tolerance of Men essay to tempt you.
Is success the best metric for a man’s worth?
To imagine a man’s worth is only measurable by success is like a woman measuring her worth by her attractiveness. Both remind me of poor investment strategies. In investments, one must diversify to weather all storms. So say the experts. Surely this could apply to self-worth.
Scott Galloway, educator and podcaster, a man who’s savvy about economics and opinionated about men, alludes to success in his definition of masculinity. For him, men are providers, procreators, and protectors.
Yeah, maybe. I tell (lie to) myself that I’m more partial to what Charles Dickens says about self-worth.
“No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.”
~Charles Dickens
At the risk of sounding crass, that knocks procreation right off the list. (Sorry, Scott) Making babies isn’t lightening anyone’s load, quite literally for the mother.
One could articulate Dickens more succinctly as…
One’s worth is more about what we are to others, measured by our humanity, not our financial success.
… Care to read on?
And here is the compromising picture I promised you. Don’t I look ridiculous?
~Damon
RIP As You Are.
"That fact hasn’t stopped people from subscribing to it."
It's probably my fault and others too, because we still have it on recommendation hah!.
Going to fix that right now.